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Secret of a Happy Married Life (Hilarious)
February 22nd, 2010 by marcell, under Hug, Kiss, Love. No Comments
I received a joke from my friend. I’d like to share with you and it is very hilarious. I don’t know whether you agree with this secret or not.
Once I was asked by my Friend, “What is the secret behind your happy married life?”
I said, “You should share responsibilities with due love and Respect each other. Then absolutely there will be no problems.”
He asked, “Can you explain?”
I said, “In my house, I take decisions on bigger issues where as my wife decides on smaller issues. We do not interfere in each other’s decisions.”
Still not convinced, Friend asked me “Give me some examples”
I said, “Smaller issues like, which car we should buy, how much amount to save, when to visit home town, which Sofa, air conditioner, refrigerator, monthly expenses, whether to keep a maid or not etc are decided by my wife. I just agree to it”
He asked, “Then what is your role?”
I said, “My decisions are only for very big issues. Like whether America should attack Iran, whether Britain should lift sanction over Zimbabwe, whether to widen African economy, whether Sachin Tendulkar should retire, etc etc and Do you know one thing, My wife NEVER, EVER objects to any of these decisions
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Kids N Divorce
January 22nd, 2010 by ilabuzz, under Hug, Kiss, Love. 1 Comment
Being a single parent is not easy. That much I can tell. And it becomes more challenging when you have kids in between. You just have to deal with your Ex till death do us part. That is how tough it is. To hurt your kids in any way is the last thing that you want to do. Thus, last night, I just went thru some readings that I like to share with you all on this portion.
When parents decide to divorce, they typically have been through a series of events that have led them to this decision. Whether or not children are aware of parents’ decisions depends on many things, including parents’ behaviors and children’s experiences. In some families, husbands and wives may argue frequently in front of the children, leaving children to suspect that something is going on. In other families, parents may talk quietly about their differences without the children ever knowing. And in other families, parents may argue sometimes and quietly handle their differences at other times. Regardless of the type of adult arguments and interactions that children experience, when parents decide to divorce, children need to know.
Children’s reactions to parental divorce are related to how parents inform them of their decision. Because of this, it is important for parents to think carefully about how they will tell their children and what they will tell them. When possible, the entire family should meet together so that both parents can answer children’s questions.
What to tell children
Remember that divorce is confusing for children. When you first talk with children, limit your discussion to the most important and most immediate issues; children can become confused if they are given too much information at once. Children need to hear that their basic needs will be met, that someone will still fix breakfast in the morning, help them with their homework, and tuck them into bed at night. Children also need to know that their relationship with BOTH parents will continue, if possible. In the face of so many changes, children also need to hear what will remain the same. Parents can reassure their children through words and actions that their love will continue despite the changes in routine family life.
During these family discussions, it is important for parents to tell children that the divorce is final and avoid giving children false hopes that the parents will reunite. Parents can also use this time to tell children that the divorce is not their fault. Many children believe that the divorce is a result of something that they did. Even younger children who seem to have no understanding of what is going on may need extra reassurance during this time. For instance, when asked why parents divorce, some children may explain that parents are divorcing because the children misbehaved or received bad grades in school. Children need repeated reassurance from parents that they are not responsible for the divorce.
Remember to ask children about their fears and concerns. Give children time to think about the divorce and the changes ahead. Meet again as a family to talk about new questions and to reassure children of your ongoing involvement in their lives.
Take your children’s questions and concerns seriously and LISTEN to what they say. As stated by one child, “this is gonna affect the rest of my life and I don’t know if they just don’t realize that, or don’t care, or what, but I don’t feel like I’m being heard.”
Children need to know that parents recognize the impact of divorce on children’s lives. By listening to children’s thoughts and feelings about the divorce, parents demonstrate their ongoing care and concern.
Realize that feelings of loss and anger are typical. You can’t change your child’s feelings, but it is important to let your child know you understand them. For example, “I know you must be really sad that you can’t see your dad today.”
What I need from my mom and dad:
* I need both of you to stay involved in my life. Even if you don’t live close by, please write letters, make phone calls, and ask me lots of questions about who I spend time with and what I like and don’t like to do. When you don’t stay involved in my life, I feel like I’m not important and that you don’t really love me.
* Please stop fighting and work hard to get along with each other. Try to agree on matters related to me and my needs. When you fight about me, I think that I did something wrong and I feel guilty.
* I want to love you both and enjoy the time that I spend with each of you. Please support me and the time that I spend with each of you. If you act jealous or upset, I feel like I need to take sides and love one parent more than the other.
* Please communicate directly with my other parent so that I don’t have to send messages back and forth. I want you to talk with each other so that the messages are communicated the right way and so that I don’t feel like I am going to mess up.
* When talking about my other parent, please say only nice things, or don’t say anything at all. When you say mean, unkind things about my other parent, I feel like you are putting me down and expecting me to take your side.
* Please remember that I want both of you to be a part of my life. I count on my mom and dad to raise me, to teach me what is important, and to help me when I have problems.
Kids Understandings
* Recognize that one parent no longer lives at home.
* May express empathy toward others, such as a parent who is feeling sad.
Feelings
* May have difficulty separating from parents.
* May express anger toward parent.
* May lose some of the skills they have developed, like toilet training.
* Toddlers may show some of the behaviors that they outgrew, such as thumbsucking.
* Sleeping and naptime routines may change.
* Older toddlers may have nightmares.
What parents can do…
* Spend more time with children when preparing to separate (e.g., arrive 10 to 15 minutes earlier than usual when you take your child to child care).
* Provide physical and verbal reassurance of your love.
* Show understanding of child’s distress; recognize that, given time and support, old behaviors (thumbsucking) will disappear and newly developed skills (toilet training) will reappear.
* Talk with other important adults and caregivers about how to support your child during this transition time.
The reading is quite long until preschoolers and teens… Maybe I will share about that on my later life having both of them growing up.
To the love of my life: Danish and Arissa. Love you ALWAYS and FOREVER!
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Is saving a relationship worth it?
December 14th, 2009 by marcell, under Hate, Kiss, Love. No Comments
Last night before I went to bed, I saw a note posted by my friend. It is about saving a relationship. Actually the article is written by a lady named Carol. It is good idea to share this article because there are lot of useful information. Some of it really makes me think deeply about it.
Here is what Carol thought about the relationship and she brought interesting question; “Is saving a relationship worth it?”
Every relationship goes through struggles but after you have been fighting for a long time to keep it alive you may ask if saving a relationship like this really worth it. You may have gone to marriage counseling and sought ways to bring back the love. You will have worked only to find that you would again start having intimacy problems of some kind. You may have experienced struggles in your dating life. You ask around for dating tips or advice and have been given some good suggestions only to find that the troubles are still there.
The struggles continue but there are some things you should think about to see if saving a relationship like the one you are in is worth the challenge. If you are thinking about getting a divorce or separating, you need to look at these things honestly and maybe get some serious relationship advice. Saving a relationship is an important thing to try and accomplish and will take a lot of work. It can also be frustrating work if the relationships not really there.
Write a list of the people you most enjoy spending time with. Is your spouse or partner on that list? Do you really enjoy spending time together? When was the last time you went out and just had fun? Is it possible for the two of you to do that? Are you content just being with them? A good relationship between two people is going to be one where they can enjoy being together or can feel content just having the person there.
Another very important thing to consider when you are deciding if this relationship is worth saving is do they make you feel like you are understood. Do you listen to your spouse? Do you feel like you are being listened to and that they understand you? Spend some time and try to see if they do.
A relationship is supposed to be a place where you can go when you need comforted. Is the relationship one that makes you feel comfort when you have gone through something bad? Is the relationship something that you constantly need comforted about? If you are looking elsewhere for comfort, there may be a problem.
If there are questions about faithfulness or infidelity, they need to be addressed. Are you able to trust them? Are they able to trust you? If you have a problem answering either one of those questions affirmatively, then you may either need some serious marriage counseling or couple’s therapy.
In saving a relationship, there are many other things to consider and a decision like this should not be taken lightly. Ask hard questions and search hard for answers and then you may be able to find if saving a relationship like the one you are in is worth it.
P.S: Thanks Widea for sharing this article.
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Just want to be happy…
November 25th, 2009 by ilabuzz, under Hug, Kiss. No Comments
Have you heard Leona Lewis’s latest hits Happy. The lyrics is just so awesome…
That’s exactly what I want to do for today and the rest of my happy day. Before I share the lyrics, I just want you folks to embrace this painting. It is not just a painting but a painting with a story line. I received this from the great friend of mine who always have a positive thought in mind. Thanks Sweetheart 
In the picture, just look at their condition: no place to sleep, still they have made some space for the cat and the dog, water pouring from the roof but still each one of them have a peaceful smile on their faces… Simply amazing! The happiest people in the world are not those who have no problems, but those who learn to live with things that are less than perfect.
HAPPY by LEONA LEWIS
Someone once told me
That you have to choose
What you win or lose
You can’t have everything
Don’t you take chances
You might feel the pain
Don’t you love in vain
Cause love wont set you free
I could stand by the side
And watch this life pass me by
So unhappy but safe as could be
So what if it hurts me
So what if I break down
So what if this world just throws me off the edge
My feet run out of ground
I gotta find my place
I wanna hear my sound
Don’t care about other pain in front of me
Cause I’m just tryna be happy, yeah
Just wanna be happy, yeah
Holding on tightly
Just can’t let it go
Just tryna play my roll
Slowly disappear, oooh
Well all these tears
They feel like they’re the same
Just different faces, different names
Get me outta here
Well I can stand by the side
And watch this life pass me by
Pass me by
So what if it hurts me
So what if i break down
So what if this world just throws me off the edge
My feet run out of ground
I gotta find my place
I wanna hear my sound
Don’t care about other pain in front of me
Cause I’m just tryna be happy
Just wanna be happy
Oooh…
So any turns that i cant see
Ill count a stranger on this road
But don’t say victim
Don’t say anything
So what if it hurts me
So what if i break down
So what if this world just throws me off the edge
My feet run out of ground
I gotta find my place
I wanna hear my sound
Don’t care about all the pain in front of me
Cause I’m just try to be happy
Just wanna be happy
P/S: Again folks, I will be that person who learns to live with things that are less than perfect and still be HAPPY!
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Great Man Great Woman? INDEED!
October 28th, 2009 by ilabuzz, under Hug, Kiss, Love. No Comments
Was enjoying my dinner yesterday at Brisik Restaurant. Very cozy and quiet – plus a WiFi too. Naa I didnt need a WiFi… on unlimited Celcom 3G… 
The waiter complained that the crowd was not so good around the area, from 5ish pm to 7ish pm only 2 tables were taken. Actually, the food was not that bad, served Indonesia cuisine. I enjoyed it much. Going back to what I want to share for today, I always believe if a man wants to be successful he needs woman besides him. I will laugh to my stomach if man says he doesn’t need a woman in his life to be successful! This is not about sharing Great Man Great Woman in bed OK. I am being intellectually concern for today’s sharing Enjoy!
What I really want to put to you though, is what do men really want in this regard? The reading goes…
People say that men look for women who can be mother, daughter and partner – mother to comfort him and provide a safe haven for when he needs it, daughter to spoil and protect (for the sake of his masculinity), and partner to share his thoughts and life with, to support him and to take on the role of his closest confident. We didn’t hear much about being “daughter”, at least around our culture. Let it continues…
It’s easy to play the role of ‘daughter’, offer him the sweet side and let him take control – think traditional Japanese wife (stereotyping I know but they do have a reputation for being soft and obedient to an extent). It is however, the other 2 roles I want to focus on – especially in the context of difficult times – of stress, of pain – how do men want to be supported? There are fine lines between being supportive, patronising, and melodramatic in such times. I can be very dramatic at times and most women use it as a weapon.
Supposed he is under tremendous pressure at work, what is he really looking to receive from his wife? This is not the time to be the ‘daughter’ – whose demand for constant attention is more a concern than a comfort when he has other things on his mind. Is it time for the ‘mother’ role? Maybe not (sometimes I tend to do that), when he’s stressed and tired, does he really want his woman to be flustering around him and making a fuss – even if it’s stemmed from concern for him and a desire to make him more comfortable. Perhaps the partner and friend is what most men need at such a time – someone who’ll listen without passing judgment, someone who is calm and will remind him of the support he has and that he does not have to carry all the weight on his own shoulders.
Then again, when a man is truly under a high degree of pressure or has a worry that is taking over, he often won’t mention it. Speaking about it causes too much grief, he’d prefer to just keep it to himself for as long as he can get away with it. But we women cant be blame for not being cared. Under such circumstances, when she knows that something is wrong but he is keeping a tight-lip, what would be the best approach? If he really does not want to talk, forcing it out of him will have little benefit and can only darken his mood further, trying to coerce it out of him by over-smothering him is patronising and makes him feel trapped.
But sitting back and waiting for him to talk would drive her crazy, at least to me. Normally I want to know WHY? Do men want women to take things in her stride and exert the calming influence that they themselves cannot muster – best is to just make a cup of tea, let him know she’s there for him and go about the daily routine as normal. Call it the maternal instinct but women want to comfort men and let them know how much they love them, men however, sometimes just want to be left to their own devices and will push her away. Perhaps it’s a sign of a weak relationship, he does not trust her enough to share his problems and offload some of the weight, perhaps he is trying to protect her in not wanting her to worry, perhaps he just wants to deal with things alone with some time to himself.
P/S: But when men are so troubled, how is she to respond at a time when he is so sensitive and she feels so helpless? This really reminds me of some men’s sensitivity. After spending so much time with “MSA”, I just realized that “MSA” has managed it very well and me basically knew what was going on in times of his stress and pressure.
My special thanks to MistyS
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Tips For Men – Lessons to learn for guys
October 26th, 2009 by marcell, under Hug, Kiss, Love. No Comments
Lesson to learn
Hello guy. I received a good tips from anonymous person. Wah, the tips are so great. So, guy. You better read it
- When a girl says she’s sad, but she isn’t crying, it means she’s crying in her heart.
- When she ignores you after you’ve done something wrong, it’s best to give her some time to cool down before touching her heart with an apology
- A girl can’t find anything to hate about the guy she loves (which is why it is so hard for her to ‘get over him’after the relationship’s over.)
- If a girl loves a guy, he will always be on her mind every minute of the day, even though she flirts with other guys.
- When the guy she likes smiles and stares deep into her eyes, she will melt.
- A girl likes to hear compliments, but usually is not sure how to react to them.
- When a particular guy flirts with a girl very often, a girl would start thinking the guy likes her. So if you treat a girl just as a friend, go easy on the smiles and stare ok?
- If you don’t like a girl who likes you, break it to her gently.
- If a girl starts avoiding you after you reject her, leave her alone for a while. If you still treat her as a friend, talk to her.
- Girls enjoy talking about what they feel. Music, poetry, drawings and writing are ways of expressing themselves (which explains why most girls like writing journals).
- Never tell a girl that she is useless in any way.
- Being too serious can turn a girl off.
- When the guy she likes calls her for the first time, the girl may act uninterested during the call. But as soon as the phone is back on the hook, she will whoop with joy and immediately start telephoning her friends to spread the news.
- A smile means a lot to a girl.
- If you like a girl, try making friends with her first. Let her get to know you.
- If a girl says she can’t go out with you because she has to study, leave.
- But if she still calls you or expect a call from you, stay.
- Don’t try to guess a girl’s feelings. Ask her.
- Hearing the words “I love you” is a great reassurance to a girl that she is beautiful.
- After a girl falls in love with a guy, she’ll wonder why she never noticed him before.
- If you need tips on how to flirt with a girl,read romance stories.
- When class pictures come out, a girl would first check who is standing next to her crush before actually looking at herself.
- A girl’s ex-crush will always be in her memory, but the guy she loves now stays in her heart.
- Girls love having fun!
- A simple ‘Hi’ can brighten a girl’s day.
- A girl’s best friends usually know best what she is feeling and going through.
- Girls hate it when a guy pays attention to them just to get close to their ‘prettier’ friend.
- Love means devotion, caring and happiness to a girl, in that order.
- Some girls care about looks, some care about brains, but ALL girls want a guy who will love and care for them.
- Girls want nothing more than to feel loved
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Reflection, Relationship – The Value of Our Loved Ones
October 19th, 2009 by marcell, under Hug, Kiss, Love. No Comments
I received a very interesting write up from my fellow friend. So, I’d like to share it with you
We have the tendency to take things for granted. And this includes people around us and even people we love. We take it for granted that the people around us will be around forever.
Relationship
We delay or conveniently forget our obligations and promises until it is too late to fulfill or to make amends. Such incidents happen too many times and to many people. Have you ever heard people commenting that they had been too busy to visit their loved ones on their deathbed until it’s too late? Or you hear people saying that they had been wanting to meet so and so, but kept postponing until one fine day, the so and so is gone forever and they regret it. These are all the late words.
I was pondering over the weekend how can we determine the value of people around us? One way, I thought, is to check how you would feel when the person in question is dead. This may not be easy for people who had not encountered loss of a loved one as you need to understand the agony and anguish.
So, after you have done the check and it tells you that you will feel absolutely miserable if this person is gone, then pal, it’s time to do something NOW before it is too late.
Don’t live to regret. Ok, see you in the next chapter
P.S: Cheerish every moment with your partner or spouse.
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A Recommendations For a Successful Relationship
October 12th, 2009 by marcell, under Hug, Kiss, Love. No Comments
My friend from Indonesia sent me an interesting article that he found in one of the leading news paper in Dubai.
The article not for married couples only but also important for those dating couples.
Here’s 10 recommendations Family Guidance and Reformation Department at the Dubai Courts gives to newly married couples.
Recommendations to wives :
- Men are different from women
- Men are not talkative, so don’t nag
- Men like to be the focus of a woman’s attention so don’t ignore them or make them feel unwanted
- Men like to talk about their work, so don’t expect them to talk about everything you like
- Men may have a hard time expressing their feelings, so don’t force them to say something they don’t want to say
- Men by nature hate failure, so try not to criticize them
- Men like to be alone when they get angry, so don’t intrude on their solitude
- Men are capable of solving problems, so don’t impose your thoughts on them
- Men don’t shop that much and they like a contented woman, so don’t be too demanding
- Men like a woman who can satisfy their desires, so shower them with love and care as well as appreciation
Recommendations to husbands
- Women are different from men :
- Women are more sensitive and emotional and expect your support all the time
- Women like a man who flirts with them and satisfies them sexually
- Women like to talk about themselves, so don’t criticise them
- Women like shopping and spending money, so don’t be a miser. Try to offer her gifts and invite her to go out frequently
- Women like to feel loved and cared for
- Don’t think of committing adultery because it is very harsh on a woman’s feelings
- Women like to be heard or listened to, so don’t stay away from your wife
- Women’s moods and attitudes change during pregnancy and menstruation so take this into consideration
- Women need a man to trust and rely on, so don’t disappoint her
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True Friends…
October 9th, 2009 by ilabuzz, under Hug, Kiss, Love. 2 Comments
This message has come to my Inbox today.
I love it and would like to share with all of you about TRUE FRIENDS…
They love you,
but they are not your lover
They care for you,
but they are not from your family
They are ready to share your pain,
but they are not your blood relation.
They are……..FRIENDS! !!!!
True friend…… ..
Scolds like a DAD..
Cares like a MOM..
Teases like a SISTER..
Irritates like a BROTHER..
And finally loves U more than a LOVER.
P/S: Can we still find true friends these days? Yes, we can!
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Poker Face!
October 7th, 2009 by ilabuzz, under Kiss, Love. No Comments
Ha ah… Was listening to Lady Gaga song very frequently these days and above all is her hit single Poker Face.
What is poker face by the way? I always want to be behind a cat and I think cat will be suitable for my poker face.
By definition, a good poker face is about not showing your true feelings. In the art of seduction it can help a man to get the attention of the queen of the prom, but that is as far as it will get him. Women, on the other hand, use the poker face for the complete opposite reason: to deflect the attention of men and maintain social status quo. Which brings us to the art of deception, where not showing your true feelings will get you all the way to your destination, whether that is to win at the poker tables or simply manipulate the social environment you are in. Hiding behind a pair of sun glasses does not cut it here. You need to look your opponents straight into the eyes and psyche them into revealing their feelings, while at the same time not giving them the slightest hint as to what you are feeling.
Some of my closed friend they are poker-ing their faces behind the glasses so that they look like nerd but in actual fact they are not!
Fish
A small, stupid and easily intimidated life form without sense of direction or a higher purpose. Only slightly above vegetation in the food chain. Born to be eaten by others. That pretty much sums up the fish. Yet one must give it credit for it comes without preconceptions or illusions of any kind. It is completely blank. A tabula rasa. The reason being that nothing sticks to it. Reality to a fish is like water to a goose. It just shrugs it off. And the fish really does not have any other choice. After all, it can’t remember shit. It just is. Until it gets eaten. Then it is no more.
Lady Gaga
Let us continue with Lady Gagas poker face, which after all is the single most famous poker face in the world of today. The song is indecent and the video is an expedition into the land of cheap meat so it serves us and her just fine. Lady Gaga’s poker face certainly is blank, with or without oversized Wayfarers, Gianni Versace #676 or Pucci #89850 sunglasses, and that is something we should give her credit for. However, the plastic over exposed porn star look instilled in her facial features utterly fails to intimidate and her sexy legs do not help her for in a game of poker they are under the table and her tits which fortunately are above the table are unfortunately not big enough to draw attention. Therefore she comes short. It is not a poker face to be intimidated by. It is just a face that you can piss on without feeling guilty.
Monkey
The monkey face is easy to read but that it is not much of a help for the majority of monkeys can’t tell an under pair from an over pair or a straight from a flush. And should the particular monkey you are facing be able to tell different hands apart, unlikely as it may seem, there would be no way you could know for you can’t tell one monkey from the other. The monkey could be holding any hand, whether it is smiling, sneering, screaming in anger, flinging chips or scratching its ass.
Hawk
This is the kind of face you should fear. The stare is blank, yet sharp. The beak is ready to rip the flesh off your body, the claws are closing in on you and the grace in its descension is almost ominous. The hawk may not be the brightest creature around but it sees everything and strikes with swiftness and precision. All you can do is hope and pray that there is more accessible prey than you at the table. The hawk prefers small fry. You better be big, otherwise you will be dead.
Shark
This is the ultimate poker face. The eyes are black holes of indifference. The mouth is enormous and jagged with razorsharp teeth. Everything about this poker face is intimidating and the only thing it gives away is an indifference to life and a mechanical appetite that can’t be stilled. It can smell your blood before you even know that you are bleeding and it will finish you off in one terrifying bite. Be the shark or be shark feed.
So folks what is your poker face in real life? Do you have one?
P/S: Will upload my cat poker face very soon…Talk to you all then!
